Finding Your Life’s Passion: Conduct Experiments

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“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he’s always doing both.” -James A. Michener

Seventy percent of white collar workers are unhappy with their jobs, but they continue to spend more and more time in the office.  This startling pronouncement is made by career coach Dan Miller in his book “48 Days To The Work You Love”.  He goes on to say that it doesn’t have to be this way, and he makes a distinction between a job, a career, and a calling:

  • A job is a chore done so you can pay your bills.
  • A career is motivated by money, prestige, and advancement.
  • A calling is work done as an end in and of itself.

Miller explains that the word “vocation” comes from the Latin vocare which means “to call”. It suggests that you’re listening to something that is calling out to you. Vocation, then, is not something that comes from wilfulness, but from listening.

This is the same sentiment expressed by Randy Komisar, the Silicon Valley “Virtual CEO” whom I wrote about in my blog post “Zen Capitalism – Randy Komisar”.  He says the following: “Passion pulls you toward something you cannot resist. Drive pushes you toward something you feel compelled or obligated to do.”

So then, ask yourself: Is the work you’re currently performing your life’s passion?  Or is it just a paycheck or status symbol?  Do you look forward to getting started with your work each morning? Or do you feel that you’re postponing your happiness until you get that big promotion you have your eye on?

In another one of his books, “No More Dreaded Mondays: Ignite Your Passion”, Miller suggests that you analyze the following questions:

  • Are you where you thought you’d be at this stage of your life?
  • Have you ever had a sense of calling?
  • How did you hear that calling?
  • Is your work a fulfillment of that calling?
  • Do you go home at night with a sense of meaning, purpose and accomplishment?
  • If nothing changed in your life over the next 5 years, would that be okay?
  • If you want different results next year, what are you willing to change about what you’re doing right now?

If you’ve concluded from what is written above that you currently have either a job or a career, here’s what you can do in order to discover your life’s vocation or passion:

Conduct Lots of Experiments

One of the best ways to discover what you love to do–and what gives you a true sense of meaning and satisfaction– is to get out there and try new things. Here are three people who advocate this approach:

Scott H. Young

Scott H. Young, from the blog “Get More From Life”, argues in his blog post titled “How to Discover What You’re Passionate About” that the best approach to finding your passion is to try a lot of different things to see what you enjoy.  He says the following:

“Dabbling is key to the art of finding what drives you. Dabbling means committing to something for 3-6 months. This amount of time isn’t enough to become really good at anything. But it is enough time to get over the sharp learning curve in the beginning.”

Once you get over the initial learning curve–that is, the frustrating period at the beginning during which you’re just getting your bearings–you can decide whether or not this new activity is something you truly enjoy.

Scott advises that if there aren’t any activities in your life right now that you feel passionate about, then you should create a list of activities outside of your comfort zone which you can practice for a few hours each week.  Commit to these activities for at least three months. He adds that, if you dabble in several things, you’ll be creating a broader base to work from in order to determine where your true passion lies.

Allan Bacon

A similar approach is suggested by Allan Bacon, the winner of Chris Guillebeau’s “Unconventional Writing Contest”. Bacon explains in his article “Moving to Paris Without Quitting My Day job: A Lesson in Becoming a Nonconformist” that most people take the wrong approach when trying to determine their life’s passion: they use tests and coaching to look back at their history in order to find the next job that would make them happier.

He argues that this is the equivalent of trying to decide if you like mango ice cream by analyzing your past food choices. Of course, that makes very little sense.  If you want to know if you like mango ice cream, you should taste it.  This realization led him to conclude that what he needed to do was to “taste” different areas which might bring him more satisfaction. That is, he needed to conduct life experiments. Here’s a quote from Bacon’s article:

“So I started doing Life Experiments by working them into the cracks and crevices of my busy schedule outside of work: visiting art galleries on a lunch break, taking photos on the weekend, exploring Tokyo paper shops between sales calls on a business trip. My guiding principle was to find the fastest, cheapest way to take action and try the essence of all the interests and job ideas I had.”

Randy Komisar

Let’s refer to Randy Komisar and the previous post I wrote about him once again. Randy–who holds a BA in Economics from Brown University and a JD from Harvard Law School–explains that he got to a point in his life where he had no idea what he wanted to do. Therefore, he began pursuing different opportunities until it became clear to him that those opportunities weren’t going to give him the fulfillment or satisfaction that he wanted.

He would then try to find, pursue, or create new opportunities for himself that would lead to a fulfilling life. By following that approach he found his life’s passion: today, he loves his life as a Virtual CEO. Incidentally, he also teaches entrepreneurship at Stanford and is the author of the bestseller “The Monk and the Riddle: The Art of Creating a Life While Making a Living”.

Conclusion

If there’s already something in your life that you feel passionate about–such as knitting, comic books, video games, and so on–but you’ve never seriously considered that you could make a living from it, then you need to take a look at my post “Freedom, Nonconformity, and Unconventional Living“.

However, if you just don’t know what you’re passionate about, then follow Scott’s, Bacon’s, and Randy’s lead: start experimenting with different activities in order to discover your life’s passion.  You can start out by doing some of the following:

  • Seek out new experiences and activities.
  • Take a class at a local college or attend seminars and lectures.
  • Apply for a part-time job.
  • Try a new hobby.
  • Help a friend with work.

If there are things you think you might truly enjoy but you have previously denied yourself the opportunity to try them out, find ways to test your suspicions.  Go out and get yourself a spoonful of mango ice cream.

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  • My passion keeps changing but healing is the operative word, whether that is myself or others, or the earth or governments for relationships or wars...
    I have always dabbled...maybe that is my true passion...well there is writing!

    Thank you for this great post...I have come to expect them here.
    .-= Patricia´s last blog ..Grace =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Patricia: Healing is a great vocation. :-)
  • Mare,
    I love this - especially those questions to ask myself - and really think about the answers. And then this whole idea of trying things...so true - we don't know if we don't try. Awesome!
    .-= Lance´s last blog ..The Practice of Saying Ha Ha! =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Lance: If we try at the very least we can cross off things from our list which we thought might be our passion that really aren't. :-)
  • I love what Allan said about knowing if you would like mango ice cream by looking at your past food choices. We need to test and try different ideas until one excites us. Then go after it.

    I do agree with Seth Godin though. A person can keep switching and never get anywhere. We need to settle in and stick with something for a while. This is the only way to really know if it's a good choice.
    .-= Karl Staib - Work Happy Now´s last blog ..5 STEPS to Success =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Karl: You can't spend your whole life switching from one thing to another or you'll never go deep enough into any one area to really make an impact or a difference. I was thinking of the 10,000 hour rule when I wrote this. It's true that experts say you need to devote 10,000 hours to something in order to be really good at it, but you first have to decide what it is that you want to spend 10,000 hours doing.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Walter: Life is short. Look, we're already in November. 2009 is almost over. Wow. We need to make the most of the time we have here.
  • If there's one thing I realized about life, it is too short. We will never know when will our time come and our greatest regret should it comes is the stifling we have done unto our self.

    We live a world of conformity; until we liberate our life from it we will never achieve anything. By nature we are infinite, but by our perception we lack. :-)
  • Marelisa
    Hi Priscilla: Thank you.

    Hi Jon: I agree that when you have the job mentally you tend to carry it around with your regardless of what you're doing. We need to reexamine the way in which we look at things.
  • Great post Marelisa, Even leaving your regular job to work online can be exchanging a job for a job.

    It can take some time to really hone in on a persons passion, and it definately requires a person to become ruthless in determining what is and what isnt
  • Hi Marelisa,

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    .-= Priscilla McIntire´s last blog ..Kaleidoscope Relationships List =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Melissa: Maybe there's an umbrella under which all of your multiple callings fit. For example, someone who's calling is to bring more healing into the world might be a nurse, a Reiki practitioner, and a yoga teacher.
  • I love the three different definitions for job, career, and calling. They are spot-on. Sometimes I feel like I have multiple callings, and it can be challenging to just pick one (and focus on it!). I keep trying though, and I'm getting there!
    .-= Melissa Donovan´s last blog ..How to Use Research for Better Writing (and Credibility) =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Seth: Sometimes we do have to go on a journey in order to find our passion. Like you say, it can be necessary to remove ourselves from what's familiar so that we can see things with fresh eyes.

    Hi Rebecca: The freelance mindset is something that needs to be developed. It's very different to know that a regular paycheck is coming in from an employer than it is to accept that you have to go out there and make it rain.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Bruce: It can take a long time to find one's passion; but the important thing, I think, is that you found it. :-)

    Hi Patty: Ah yes, the thunderbolt. I think for a lot of people their passion is a strange mixing and matching of things that fit their talents and abilities just right. There's no way to find that unless you go out there and experiment with different things, adding a little bit here and taking away a little bit there until you get it just right.
  • Interesting post. I'm definitely not where I thought I'd be in my life. I'm still amazed that I had the courage two years ago to drive across country by myself. I landed in Arizona ~ love the hot weather! As for my career, I enjoy writing, communication, politics, leadership, coaching, advising, consulting, teaching, and speaking. I'm doing my best to attract writing opportunities in areas that I enjoy writing about on a daily basis. I would like for my writing/coaching to take off, but there's part of me that keeps asking, "...how can you make it as a freelancer?" This is why it would be best for me to have a full-time job in addition to my freelancing. Consciously I know that "security" is an illusion, but the subconscious has not accepted this, yet :)
  • I spent several years trying different things but never found one that worked for me. I had to go to the other side of the world to find and develop my passion in something that I could have done in my hometown.

    However, sometimes a person has to remove themselves from their past to find what's right under their nose.

    As a side note, I found an inverse relationship between pay and job satisfaction: the more a job paid, the less soul I had at the end of the day.
    .-= Seth M Baker´s last blog ..Who Is Your Audience and How Do They Affect Your Work? =-.
  • Hi Marelisa - What a wise and wonderful post! So often the people I work with resist experiments and experiences as a path to calling, because they believe callings should hit like thunderbolts. They wait around for magic, and they imagine that any other route will take too long and be too hard. So I love the idea of working experiments "into the cracks and crevices" of life. The interesting thing I've noticed about this is many people do know at some level what their calling is, and when they start experimenting a bit they finally feel freed up to actually admit it to themselves.
    .-= Patty @ Why Not Start Now?´s last blog ..How Do You Sustain Meaning In Life? =-.
  • Hello Marelisa, My first time looking at your Blog. I'm so impressed with the detail and direction of this subject. As an old warrior who has taken far too many years to finally find his passion I would have loved to have read it many, many years ago.

    I've always had a burning desire to be able to be of help to people in need however it's only in the last ten years that I have been able to find my niche. At least I made it before it was too late and I hope that your readers are able to reach their destiny a lot sooner than I.
    Best Wishes
    Bruce
    .-= Bruce Miller´s last blog ..The Rethink....... =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Ami: Imagine spending all day doing something you love--where time stands still and you forget everything else--and being paid for it . . . now that's a great life.

    Hi Michele: I'm glad you've found something you're truly passionate about. And just think, if you hadn't decided to experiment with raw foods, you wouldn't have discovered your passion.
  • Awesome post, Mare.

    I absolutely know I'm passionate about the healing benefits of raw foods, juices, juice fasting, weight loss, and health and well-being in general. I thrive on sharing my passions because I love helping people. It's a fantabulous feeling to know that when I give of my time and knowledge I've gained from years of experience and studying, I can inspire, motivate, and help others! :-)
    .-= Michele | aka Raw Juice Girl´s last blog ..Klamath Lake Blue-Green Algae (E3 Live) Review =-.
  • ami
    I loved this post Marelisa, appreciate the links as well. I'm in the middle of my "writing experiment" - and loving it. The links to your prior post(s) will help me figure out if this experiment might become a new career, oops, I mean a calling - that pays the bills. ;)
    .-= ami´s last blog ..Day 14 – Lose control – and learn more (or learning about life with taekwondo) =-.
  • Generally I agree, and 70% is A LOT. But some people have kids and mortgages and bills to pay... it's not always that simple. I guess ideally people should take the time to find their passion during their twenties.
    .-= vered | blogger for hire´s last blog ..Ten Stupid Fashion Trends =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Vered: Allan Bacon was in his 40s when he found a way to discover his true life's passion (and he's married with children). I think that having kids and a mortgage means that you have to be more creative on how you go about conducting your experiments, but it doesn't mean that you're stuck. Like you say, 70% is a lot.
  • Great blog post Marelisa. The best job in the world is doing something that you're passionate about and making a living from it. The lesser the distinction between job and play, the more enthusiasm we will have in our work and the better we will become at it.

    The examples in your post were informative and add support that a non-conformist life in this day and age, is become not only more socially acceptable, but a new era of defining the word "job".
    .-= Tristan Lee´s last blog ..The Illusion of Success =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Tristan: I've read that one of the things that the most successful people in the world have in common is that they love what they do. When you're really excited about your work you're willing to devote the time and effort that's necessary to create something truly remarkable.
  • Good morning Marelisa. I must say that your blog addresses the most important and elusive puzzle every Human Being encounters in their life. Namely, the "who am I....and what should I be doing with my life?" riddle. This ancient puzzle comes in many forms too. Why am I here? is one way people express it. What is my "calling, passion, life-mission" etc. is another. How do I find authentic happy success is probably the most common way of talking about it. And....of course.....a humongous self-help and personal growth industry has been launched in an attempt to help folks solve this puzzle. But here's a curious thing. It almost never helps. Just ask someone who's tried a hundred formulas for finding their calling a few simple questions for instance. Ask if they get up each day absolutely driven by purpose to fulfill some mission. Have they discovered work they'd do, even without getting paid? Do they know with certainty why they're here? Chances are the methods didn't reveal their purpose. But how come? That's the gazillion dollar question. The answer is simple enough to lay it out here. Imagine our callings live is in an ocean of potential at our "center". We can't go there to get at it....but there's a kind of pipe going down into the ocean.....with a tap on top. To let our reason for being come to us then, all we have to do is open the tap. Modern (and ancient) gurus have actually known about the tap for a long time. But how to open it has remained a mystery. This tap is called "fear of being judged". We're all familiar with these fears of failing and trying and loving and making mistakes. Pretty much everybody has felt this fear on occasion. Even so, how to get rid of it has eluded us. When this inhibiting fear is dissolved however, something stunning happens. Like magic, ideas about who we are and what to do with our lives begin flowing again.....just like we'd opened any valve. On the other hand, if we don't learn how to turn the faucet back on in our lives, it won't matter what we do. We won't "Know Thyself" or our passionate reason for being here. So where does this fear come from and how do we dump it? That part is a bit too long for here. Here's something interesting though. When we take the fear away and discover who we are.......all the personal growth gurus can finally help. Each really does offer tools that can help create the life of our dreams. The trouble is, our real, authentic true-blue dreams are locked up behind that fear. Once let back into our lives again, thousands of inspiring teachers, bloggers, gurus and others can help us make them real. Ciao Marelisa. John Duffield
    .-= John Duffield´s last blog ..Yes There is Real Magic =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi John: I agree that fear plays a big role in inhibiting people from discovering their life's work. We choose conventional careers, follow the well-trodden path, and once we've devoted time and effort to making some progress in a given career we're unwilling to step back and begin again doing something new. I use EFT and the Sedona Method to help me release the fear of failing while I try new things.
  • That's a very interesting cocept and I love the idea of experimenting. I once wrote a post called 'Stuck And Not Sure What To Do With Life' and in there I pretty much talked about the same thing. That you need to experiement with life to find out what it is you really want to do. You don't always find your passion straight away and you may even find other hobbies that you really enjoy. It' how I discovered badminton and now I can't get enough of it.

    Great post as always Marelisa!
    .-= Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice´s last blog ..10 Reasons Why You Should Start Playing Badminton =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Amit: Thank you. Right now I have several things going on, including this blog, NaNoWriMo, and a few other things. I'm planning on experimenting until I find the "position description" that's just right for me. :-)
  • Hi Marelisa,

    This is my first time on your blog and already I found e very useful article. I like the distinction you made between job, career and calling. I usually stop at job and career, you took it one step further.

    I think experiments are very important in figuring out who you are and what you like. I encourage my clients often to make experiments. It's hard to figure out what you really like if you just had one type of job, with very narrow responsibilities all your life. Experiments create a pool of experience you can then draw valuable info from.

    Eduard
  • Marelisa
    Hi Eduard: I think that we're moving more and more toward students taking a gap year between high school and college, and older people taking sabbaticals, so that we can each experience more of life and therefore be better informed when deciding what to devote our time and attention to. Life is short, let's find our true passion.
  • Hi Mare,

    I've been behind on my abundance reading :)

    This is definitely at the center of my secret sabbatical. I'm finally trying out the writing since... Yesterday. How's NaNo treating you?
    .-= Charles´s last blog ..Why some people never get fat, and why you shouldn’t envy them. =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Charles: The posts are here waiting for you. :-) NaNoWriMo is treating me well so far. Who knows, maybe we'll discover by the end of this month that we were meant to be novelists. :-)
  • Excellent post Marelisa.
    This is exactly what has been happening to me over the last year. I had no idea what I was passionate about. I just noticed a lack of creativity at work. Not wanting to give up my job just yet to become an artist, I have started organising creative workshops at work with my dear colleagues who agreed to be guinea pigs. And it all started snowballing from there. They are now a regular item, HR has contacted me to work with them on a creative thinking pilot course, I have worked out a project to combine the corporate with charity and am presenting it to the management next week.
    I can't say I am lacking creativity at work anymore :-)
    As you wrote about in a former post as well and which is the motto of Nike: Just do it !
    Mimi
    .-= Mindful Mimi´s last blog ..True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new -- Antoine de Saint-Exupery =-.
  • Marelisa
    Hi Mimi: I'm so glad that you're creativity workshops have turned out so well and that you're getting recognition for your initiative from HR. Instead of complaining that your job didn't allow you to be creative, like so many people do, you stood up and did something about it. That's great!
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