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10 Ways to Have a Zen-Like Day

by Marelisa · 32 comments

make ideas happen, execute your ideas“Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the whole earth revolves – slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future.” — Thich Nhat Hanh

Eknath Easwaran is a spiritual teacher whose method is a practical approach that fits naturally into any faith, philosophy, or lifestyle, enabling us to bring universal ideals into daily life. He talks about slowing down, taking time for the important things, and living in the present. The following 10 ways to have a zen-like day were taken from his writing:

Slow Down Your Mind

Eknath Easwaran uses the analogy of driving a car in his book, “Take Your Time”, to describe what happens when your mind speeds up. He explains that when you’re driving and you’re going too fast, you can’t control the car. In the same way, when your mind is racing you can’t pay proper attention to what is going on around you, heed warning signs, and make the right judgment calls.

He adds that there is nothing more disobedient than an untrained mind, and there is nothing more obedient than a trained mind. We can train our minds to slow down by listening to our thoughts, slowing down our pace of life, learning to prioritize, doing one thing at a time, and through reflective practices such as yoga, tai chi, meditation, and so on.

Train Your Attention to be Fully in the Present

When your mind is rehashing the past and recycling old resentments, or worrying about the future, it’s ill equipped to handle the challenges of the moment. Learn to remain focused completely on the present.

Take Time for Relationships

Relationships are usually the first casualty when your life speeds up and you’re overbooked.  Especially when it comes to children, slow down and move at their rhythm, instead of expecting them to scurry to keep up with yours.  Get back into the habit of sitting together with your family at meal times and eat at a leisurely pace.

Transmit Serenity to Others

In my article “Five Joyous Tips for Being Happy” I talk about a study that has shown that happiness is indeed contagious. As Eknath Easwaran points out, pressure is contagious as well, but so is goodwill. One person slowing down and not putting others under pressure helps everyone else to relax. Choose to be the person that remains calm when everyone else is rushing about, setting an example for others to relax as well.

Get Up Earlier

If you start your day in a state of hurry you’ll carry that feeling with you throughout the rest of the day. We rush through breakfast, run out the door, sit in traffic tapping our hand against the steering wheel impatiently and muttering, “Come on, I’m late, where’d you learn to drive?” at other drivers under our breath, and arrive at our morning’s destination frazzled and disheveled. You can avoid the morning rush by getting up earlier.

Take Steps to Put an End to Information Overload

Stop trying to be on top of it all. You can’t read everything, you can’t be constantly aware of the latest breaking news or fad, and you can’t absorb every bit of information that is thrown at you. Accept that. You have to make choices: decide what information is really important to you and discard everything else.

Leo Babauta from zenhabits.net describes the following process for putting an end to the email avalanche:

  • The first step is to reduce the flow of e-mails coming in: take action to stop nonessential e-mails from getting to your in-box. For example, unsubscribe from newsletters that don’t really interest you and post your e-mail policies on your blog or web site.
  • The second step is to deal effectively with the flow of emails that comes in.  He advises to stop checking your emails constantly; instead, check it at regular periods.
  • The third step is to stop dealing with the same e-mail over and over again: make a decision, take action, and move on. That is, delete, file, forward, write a short reply, or add to your to-do list.

Don’t Crowd Your Day

Sit down and make a list of all the activities that fill up your days:  all of the associations you belong to, all of the activities you’re signed up for, and all of the commitments you’ve made to others. Now take a red pencil and cross out everything that is not necessary or beneficial to you.

After doing this you’ll find that you have more time to do the things that are really important to you and more time to spend with those you love.  In addition, you’ll have time to do things for yourself such as exercising and finding time each day to spend in meditation and quiet contemplation.  Keep sight of the most important things each day.

Master the Art of Concentration

Give your attention to one thing at a time; complete concentration is genius.  Again, Eknath Easwaran uses the analogy of a car: imagine that you get into your car and start driving north toward your house; then, all of a sudden, the car turns left and starts heading toward the supermarket; then it makes another sudden turn and starts headings toward your sister’s house; then . . . you get the picture.  When it comes to our attention we often have as little control over it as we had over that car.

Follow Buddha’s advice: whatever you’re doing, do it mindfully.

Repeat a Mantra

By repeating a mantra–such as “Rama”, “Peace”, “All is well”, or anything else that works for you–you’re applying a break to the mind.  When the mind begins to race off with thoughts of worry, frustration, fear, or anger, we can effectively slow it down by repeating our mantra.

In addition, repeating a mantra can help you to focus.  I once read of a monk who taught his students to repeat in their heads the tasks they were engaged in at the moment.  So if they were walking they would repeat: “walking, walking, walking”; if they were doing the dishes they would repeat:  “doing the dishes, doing the dishes, doing the dishes”; and so on.

Keep in Mind That It is Not Necessary to Lead a Frantic Life to Accomplish Many Things

Eknath Easwaran uses the example of Ghandi, who accomplished more than most people in history, and yet always looked relaxed.  What could be more ambitious than filling our schedule with the things that are most important to us, spending more time with those we love, and living life at our own pace instead of trying to keep up with others?

Conclusion

I’d like to conclude this post with the following words by Eknath Easwaran:

“A slower life . . . is more effective, more artistic, much richer than a life lived as a race against the clock. It gives you time to pause, to think, to reflect, to decide, to weigh pros and cons. It give you time for relationships.”

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{ 29 comments }

Carla January 5, 2009 at 1:49 am

Information overload is my biggest concern. I recently stopped looking and reading the news (after the election) and I feel much more at peace. Getting up earlier would definitely help me as well.

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Barbara Swafford - Blogging Without A Blog January 5, 2009 at 4:17 am

Hi Marelisa – I was reading the list trying to find a favorite and each point you’ve listed is important. The one I’m working on is getting up earlier. Now I just have to train myself to get to bed earlier. I have too many days where I don’t want to see them end, and stay up way too late.

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kathy January 5, 2009 at 6:35 am

Hi Mare
Getting up early changed everything for me. It is the very best gift I’ve ever given myself.

Now I’m working on transmitting serenity to others. My workplace is a toxic soup of stress, pressure to meet unrealistic time lines, and ego battles.

If I can be the calm in the storm, it will most definitely help me and hopefully help those around me enjoy our work for a change and maybe even have some fun.

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weight loss patch January 5, 2009 at 9:03 am

Hi, thanks for these wonderful tips, I think it is very important to relax, because after good rest, we can work better.

Tom Volkar / Delightful Work January 5, 2009 at 9:51 am

Powerful post! Love the car analogies because when my mind is too fool that’s what it feels like – out of control speeding. Concentration is key. We can have multiple objectives and interests as long as we aim out focus on one thing at a time.

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Tom Volkar / Delightful Work January 5, 2009 at 9:52 am

Interesting slip. :) Guess when I have a overly full mind, it’s a fool’s mind as well. Funny, I wasn’t really rushing making that comment.

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Writer Dad January 5, 2009 at 10:49 am

“Keep in Mind That It is Not Necessary to Lead a Frantic Life to Accomplish Many Things”

You’ve been telling me that for a while, Mare. I agree. ’09 will be about getting more done in less time. I’ll increase my organization, not my load.

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Mindful Mimi January 5, 2009 at 11:47 am

Great list. Well, I get up early every day as our 2 and half year old tends to wake us up at 6am. I start the day by trying to list the things I am grateful for, by saying to myself that this is going to be a great day. It does not always work :-)
I chose as word of the year the word SERENITY. It gets me to focus daily on achieving that state, through many different channels. I still get worked up about the nitty gritty stuff and my kids can still drive me up the wall, but I hope it will become a habit if I stick to it.

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Mare January 5, 2009 at 2:32 pm

Hi Carla: I now scan most things and only really read when I come to something that catches my attention.

Hi Barbara: I’ve owned two of Eknath Easwaran’s books for a few years now and I’ve read them several times. His teachings really are timeless.

Hi Kathy: It’s a shame when work environments are like that: that’s what things were like when I worked for the Panama Canal Authority. I avoided the water cooler at all costs and just tried to stick to my office and get my work done. The environment there was just absolutely toxic.

Hi Tom: Interesting Freudian slip there :-) When I start to get upset I can literally feel my mind speeding up. I use the mantra Rama–which is the mantra Gandhi used–to slow it back down. You’re supposed to repeat your mantra even when you’re calm so that you train your mind to respond to the mantra.

Hi Sean: I’m going to be extraordinarily ambitious this year and get down to the bare essentials.

Hi Mimi: I think it’s a great idea to choose a word for the year, and serenity is a great ideal that can help bring more peace and tranquility to your life.

Vered - MomGrind January 5, 2009 at 2:56 pm

Being completely in the present is very hard for me. It’s completely against my nature. I think Leo Babauta recently said his main New Year’s resolution is being present. I’d like that very much, but honestly, I’m not sure my brain is capable of it.

SpaceAgeSage -- Lori January 5, 2009 at 4:13 pm

“… there is nothing more disobedient than an untrained mind, and there is nothing more obedient than a trained mind.” — Sure wished they’d taught this kind of stuff in school!

I’ve only recently in my life embraced on a heart level the concepts you’ve outlined instead of working too hard to find such answers then working too hard to try and attain them overnight. Being a perfectionist can be a pain! I’m glad it’s fading from my life.

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Jay January 5, 2009 at 5:30 pm

I was doing this today. I woke up late and instantly my mind went into overdrive with all the things I need to do to have a “productive day”. I almost skipped the gym so I can get going but knew I would be annoyed later for doing that. An extra bonus is the gym calmed me, and I was able to progress through the day with a more “Zen” like approach. Thanks for the reminder Marelisa!

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Melissa Donovan January 5, 2009 at 8:33 pm

Ooh, I have a lot of work to do when it comes to having a zen-like day. I better get busy…

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Karl Staib - Work Happy Now January 5, 2009 at 9:52 pm

Now that’s some great advice. I’ve been practicing many of these ideas, but I never thought to repeat the mantra of what I was doing. Sometimes my monkey mind starts to carry me away and I try to stay focused, but it’s hard. A mantra of what I’m doing is a great way for me to stay focused.

I love the pacing of this article. Marelisa, you are improving with every post.

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Christopher January 5, 2009 at 10:12 pm

YES! I’m printing this out and hanging it on my wall :)

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JustinSMV January 5, 2009 at 10:16 pm

Hello Marelisa, Nice round up of advice here. Although many of these tips are pretty common and basic but thats the beauty of your post its back to basicas that make this work. I like the Repeat the Mantra tip, think I will use that more often ^_^

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Natural January 5, 2009 at 11:31 pm

i should probably work on that information overload thing. uh i love to read books and magazines. got ‘em piled high too, in addition to my blogs that i enjoy reading. i gave up the magazines, only to start subscribing again, for free though. i enjoy them, just need a better schedule for reading them.

i need to create a zen like day at work instead of listening to all that chatter. it’s driving me batty. really. hard to concentrate and stay focused.

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Mare January 6, 2009 at 12:10 am

Hi Vered: It’s a matter of training the brain to do as it’s told (kind of like a puppy). I know it’s easier said than done.

Hi Lori: I wish they taught these things in school too :-)

Hi Jay: I find jogging on a treadmill to be so calming. It’s as if the excess energy you’re carrying around burns off. I wonder if zen monks know about treadmills :-)

Hi Melissa: No not work, relaxing . . . :-)

Hi Karl: I do that in the morning when I’m getting ready: instead of letting my mind race through everything I have to do I say to myself “brushing teeth, brushing teeth . . .” And thank you Karl; as I wrote in a comment on Kelly’s blog at Shepower, I’m trying to lose my lawyer voice when I blog.

Mare January 6, 2009 at 12:16 am

Hi Christopher: Great! Thank you for stopping by.

Hi Justin: It is just about getting back to basics. Lots of people need to be reminded that less is more.

Hi Natural: Today I took a pile of magazines and simply placed them in the recycle bin. If i haven’t read them by now, I never will. Sometimes it’s just about giving ourselves permission to cut back.

15 Minutes to Riches! January 6, 2009 at 12:33 am

All excellent points. It’s way too easy in today’s world to get “caught up in the rush”, forgetting about everything that is really important to you.

I will be adding this post to my favorites as a reminder to slow down and focus on the things I really care about. Thanks!

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Maya January 6, 2009 at 1:06 am

Mare – LOVED this post – you really have such a diverse set of suggestions – I have to read Eknath now ….

And awesome lens on Leo!

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Lance January 6, 2009 at 6:26 am

Hi Mare,
This is wonderful advice. I especially love the quote you have at the end – so much wisdom in it! Mastering the art of concentration – this one is a key for me – as in, one I need to focus more on. It’s so easy to get side tracked, all of a sudden going in a completely different direction…

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Arswino January 6, 2009 at 8:46 am

Hi Mare, very helpful post. I realize that all this time I always do most things in hurry. Sometimes I tried in completing jobs at the same time.
Thanks for putting in mind of slow down and focus.

Chris January 6, 2009 at 1:29 pm

I guess the tragedy lies in the awful reality that I know I should do these things that you mentioned here but I don’t…well except the one about slowing down for my children. I think I do that pretty well.

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Stacey / Create a Balance January 6, 2009 at 2:37 pm

I loved this post too! Getting up earlier has been great for me. I start my day with hot water with fresh organic lemon, slowing drinking and appreciating all that I have in my life.

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Mare January 6, 2009 at 3:25 pm

Hi Maya: You can do a search of Eknath Easwaran on the internet and get lots of info on his philosophy, but I’m planning to create a lens on him soon. Thank you, Leo liked the lens too :-)

Hi Lance: I take an index card and write what I’m going to do and how many 15 minute increments I’m going to devote to it. Then I stick to it. During that time I don’t answer the phone, I don’t open my e-mail, I don’t even go to the door if someone knocks :-)

Hi Arswino: I think we would all speed up more and more if we didn’t constantly remind ourselves to slow down.

Hi Chris: So you’re basically a lost cause :-) No, come on, you can work on these slowly until you’ve completely adopted them in your life.

Hi Stacey: Hot water with fresh organic lemon sounds good. I toyed with the idea of switching from coffee to green tea in the mornings awhile back, but here in Panama we love our coffee :-)

Kathy @ Virtual Impax January 6, 2009 at 7:15 pm

Mare ~
Getting up earlier was definitely a turning point in my life. However, crowding my day used to be a HUGE issue for me. (Getting up earlier was at first just a way to try to crowd MORE into my day!) I was always trying to slip in ‘just one more’ task. It took me a while to realize that the ‘one more thing’ ALWAYS took longer than I thought it would AND it usually made me late for something important.

Yes, I USED to be the jerk who was honking like mad in traffic. In those days – I was late – you weren’t. I was trying to fit 10 pounds of activities into a 5 lb bag and I wasn’t pleased with the results.

I can still remember the feelings that accompanied that stress. I must admit, there are times that stress creeps back into my daily routine and I can usually trace it back to reverting back to “crowding” my day.

Great reminder! I think I’ll brew a glass of green tea to celebrate my current (but very fragile) “recovery”. :)

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Evelyn Lim January 6, 2009 at 8:46 pm

I love your list!! I like the idea of planning to do less, for more. I try not to put too many activities on my schedule nowadays, allowing time for new stuff to crop up. In the New Year, I am also specifically dedicating more time for meditation.

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Mare January 7, 2009 at 9:10 pm

Hi Kathy: I know what you mean. When I worked for the Panama Canal what you just described sounds a lot like what my looked like.

Hi Evelyn: Today I took some time out of my day right out of the blue to go see my two little nephews :-)

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