12 Superb Ways to Be Happier

by Marelisa · View Comments

fun at work1.  Forget the myth that happiness is elusive and unattainable, and that it’s something that either happens or it doesn’t.  Being happy is a choice.

2.  Expand your understanding of health to include happiness.  Here’s a quote from Deepak Chopra, one of the world’s foremost experts on the mind-body connection:

“Health is not just the absence of disease.  It’s an inner joyfulness that should be ours all the time – a state of positive well-being.”

3. The term Gross National Happiness (GNH) was first expressed by the King of Bhutan, His Majesty Jigme Singye Wangchuck, and it’s rooted in the Buddhist notion that the ultimate purpose of life is inner happiness.

Wangchuck maintains that economic growth does not necessarily lead to contentment, so instead of merely focusing on Gross Domestic Product (GDP), he focuses on the four pillars of GNH: economic self-reliance, a pristine environment, the preservation and promotion of Bhutan’s culture, and good governance in the form of a democracy. Follow Bhutan’s lead: instead of simply calculating your net worth, start calculating your net happiness.

4.  Living in the moment, which we aim to achieve through the practice of mindfulness, has been shown to be linked to positive emotions and physical well-being.

5.  Research shows that meditation stimulates the left anterior temporal region of the brain, which is active during sensations of happiness and positive emotion.

6. Enrique Peñalosa, the former mayor of Bogota, Colombia (population 7 million), sought to create a city of joy–in terms of transportation and urban design–that supported social interaction and equity, and that honored the sacredness of people and the environment. During his tenure he created urban infrastructure and public space that gave priority to children and to those who don’t own an automobile.  Here is a quote from Peñalosa:

“We had to build a city not for businesses or automobiles, but for children and thus for people. Instead of building highways, we restricted car use.  We invested in high-quality sidewalks, pedestrian streets, parks, bicycle paths, libraries; we got rid of thousands of cluttering commercial signs and we planted trees.  All our everyday efforts have one objective: happiness.”

Organize your space around the concept of creating happiness.

7. Let go of idea that happiness equals consumption. Positive psychology is affirming that once we meet our basic needs, the experience of authentic happiness has much more to do with intrinsic factors such as self acceptance, meaning, empathy and love.

8. Act in ways that are socially and environmentally responsible. You may take great pleasure in drinking your morning coffee, and this pleasure can be accompanied by feelings of satisfaction and happiness. However, if you’re not drinking fair trade coffee, that happiness is not sustainable.

9. Dan Baker, a clinical psychologist whose practice draws on the science of happiness, writes that the greatest barrier to individual happiness is fear. He concludes that all of our fear can be grouped into three basic fears:

1) Survival;
2) Fear of not Having Enough, and;
3) Fear of not Being Enough.

He explains that as long as we are operating out of fear, rather than love, we will consistently pursue happiness in ways that are destructive for ourselves and others.

10. In the book Cradle to Cradle: Remaking the Way We Make Things, McDonough and Braungart pose the following question; “What if humans designed products and systems that celebrate an abundance of human creativity, culture and productivity? That are so intelligent and safe, our species leaves an ecological footprint to delight in, not lament?”  Ask yourself how you can apply this concept in your life.

11. Encourage your city’s major to adopt the “Slow City Manifesto”. In his book In Praise of Slow: How a Worldwide Movement Is Challenging the Cult of Speed, Carl Honoré explores the benefits of slowing down and describes the Slow City movement in his first chapter. He explains that many Italian cities have taken the Slow City pledge and are working to improve the quality of life of their citizens:

“The Citta Slow manifesto contains fifty-five pledges, such as cutting noise and traffic, increasing green spaces and pedestrian zones; backing local farmers and the shops, markets and restaurants that sell their produce; promoting technology that protects the environment; preserving local aesthetic and culinary traditions; and fostering a spirit of hospitality and neighbourliness.”

12. Call the “Laughter Yoga Hotline” and participate in a laughter yoga session in the privacy of your home (it’s free, but you may have to pay a long distance fee depending on your phone service plan).

Editor’s Note: This post is my contribution to the “Life Balance Group Writing Project” hosted by Stacey from CreateABalance.com.

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  • Mare
    Hi Rachel: Welcome, thank you for stopping by :-) I lived in Italy for a year and I had a Sicilian boyfriend who moved at a snail's pace. I was 21 and everything had to be fast so I was constantly trying to get him to speed up. I guess he was unto to something.
  • Hi, That was wonderful.

    Love Italy and everything slow. They don't do anything fast except drive from one destination to the next fast and then they slow down.
    Stacy, from Create a Balance sent me here.

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  • Mare
    Hi Alex: I think a lot of us can relate to #9. I use a method called the Sedona Method that teaches that whenever we feel a negative feeling it's related to the fact that we think a given situation is threatening our survival, our acceptance by others, or our acceptance of ourselves.
  • I don't know why but I can relate myself to #9...

    I have to start thinking positive!

    Thanks
  • Mare
    Hi Azhagiya: I always feel happier when I meditate than when I don't. I'm glad your enjoying my articles :-)
  • Hi, this is the first time I came to your blog and there's so much that I want to read. Every of your article are empowering and I like this one the best especially the 4th way to happiness. Meditation is one of the way I'm doing to practice living in the present moment and it brings peace and makes me happier.

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  • Mare
    Hi Kelly: And Bhutan is the eighth happiest country in the world. They're also preserving their natural resources and their culture. I'm glad you're aiming to increase your net happiness instead of obsessing over your net worth :-)
  • Mare
    Hi Davina: You know, I think that a lot of people equate happiness with a feeling of elation, but I think that happiness is also that feeling of peace that you get when you're living in the moment.

    Hi Suzanne: I agree that how we feel is a result of our attitude, which is a result of our thoughts. Which means it's something we can control :-)

    Hi Natural: I also think that happiness is a lot less complicated than most people make it out to be. In fact, if people aren't happy it's very likely the first thing they need to do is to start taking things out of their lives instead of adding more.
  • Mare
    Hi Lance: I think it's wonderful that the people from your congregation are taking an active part in helping your sister congregation in Tanzania. We can't be truly happy if our actions are hurting others or we're treating others unfairly.

    Hi Jenny: Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed the post :-) I've a big fan of Deepak Chopra, I think his books are filled with wisdom and I went to see him talk a few years back when he came to Panama.

    Hi Glee Girl: I'm glad you're already doing a lot of things on the list :-)

    Hi Evelyn: There's a program called "The Work" which is basically about asking yourself: "If I stopped having this thought, how would I feel?" Just that question makes you realize how it's our own thoughts that are causing any negative feelings.
  • @Vered
    If your daughters are excited by new clothes then you are already teaching them good values and that stuff is not their self worth. You're in trouble when your kid acts as if something new or a gift is no big deal. Or worse, that it's not good enough!

    @Marelisa
    I love the whole idea of Bhutan and its GNH. I stopped worrying about my net worth 12 years ago when I realised that despite all the money I was making I was just as miserable as ever. I've been evaluating my net happiness ever since, though I personally find it a harder goal to optimize than money. Making money is easy compared to maintaining happiness. But I'm trying!

    Got to remember it's a choice. I know that, but somehow I still manage to get caught up in silly stuff and forget...

    Kelly :)
  • i agree that in most cases we can choose to be happy or not be happy.

    we need very little to achieve this. all the other things we add to our lives, at times, are burdens which cause us unhappiness.

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  • Happiness is definitely a choice because we choose our thoughts and our attitudes and outlook are direct derivatives of our thoughts.

    At every juncture we have multiple options - sometimes it just feels like none of the choices available are good ones, so we say 'I had to...I had no choice.'

    These tips are a great start toward shifting our thinking!

    Suzanne Bird-Harris | vAssistant Servicess last blog post..Project Powerful and Positive
  • Hi Mare. Living in the moment is a biggie. I read a few pages from Eckhart Tolle's latest book last night (yes, I wasn't reading my favourite blogs :-( ); I'm slowing down a wee bit to take a breather.

    Being in the now can be as easy as focusing on the breath. I find in those times, it causes me to have no expectations. And that in turn brings a sense of peace that I related to happiness.

    Davinas last blog post..25 Words That Connect Us — Frosty Sunrise
  • Happiness is indeed a choice! Instead of letting external events determine how we feel, we really should take charge of what goes on in our life. I like the tips you have here!!

    Evelyn Lims last blog post..Can You Read My Mind?
  • Reading lists of ways to be happier and realising I can check quite a few of the boxes makes me happier!

    Now I am off to look into moving to Bogota or Bhutan...
  • Hi Mare,

    Great post! The Deepak Chopra quote is one I live by now and know is so true. I love your comments on consumption, meditation and well - I love the whole post! GREAT suggestions and observations. I do choose to be happy now and the next time I feel myself getting down I now have a number to call to cheer myself up (Laughter Yoga Line) Awesome! Gratefully, Jenny
  • Wonderful post Mare! When our life is in balance, we area a happier people. Talking about fair trade coffee - this was something I wasn't even aware of until our church became involved with a sister congregation in Tanzania. They grow coffee to sustain their farming community. We have sent people there from our congregation, had people here from their congregation - and we have a project with several other churches to purchase coffee directly from them, at a fair price. And it's amazing how a little extra cost in our coffee can have a large impact on a small community so far away. Currently I'm getting my coffee elsewhere, another specialized coffee -- and now I need to check and see if it's fair trade coffee. I buy it elsewhere for very specific reasons. But still, the coffee we have from our church really is "happiness in action".

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  • Mare
    Hi Cath: I lived in Italy for the year and I love those quaint cobble streets with the tiny fruit vendor, next door to the place where they sell meat, and then a couple of doors down is the lady that sells flowers, and so on. I wish I could have that lifestyle here in Panama.

    It must be tough having PTSD, but the fact that you're pulling ahead is a testament to your strength.

    Hi Ann: I watch little kids at a pharmacy I frequent often that has a couple of aisles devoted to toys. They pester their parents on and on to buy them stuff. The good part of it is that they're often satisfied when their parents say no to the expensive toys and buy them something small and inexpensive instead. Maybe there's a children's book that helps parents teach their kids about what truly makes people happy.
  • Mare
    Hi Harmony: I think you should have a mindset of buying only those things that you truly need or that you will truly enjoy and not get stuck in the rut of buying stuff just because that's what everyone else is doing.

    Hi Chris: They're building a road along the Panama Bay which was supposed to be filled with green areas, bicycle paths, etc. The government changed the plans and now no one knows what it's going to end up looking like, but we suspect it's going to be just basically concrete. What a missed opportunity to beautify the city!

    Hi Vered: I think it's OK to enjoy getting stuff, as long as your happiness doesn't depend on it. I remember when we were young and my father would tell us he was taking us to Europe for summer vacation. He would get upset if we didn't show enough excitement :-) I guess it's a balancing act because pleasure is a part of happiness, and getting new stuff can create pleasure, it's just that there are so many other ingredients that are more important.
  • Like Vered, I have that experience with my daughter too; she was overjoyed to receive her beloved AG doll this past birthday - at least that toy has staying power. But it's hard to teach kids that buying every little thing we see and want will really make us happy in a significant way.

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  • Mare
    Hi Robin: I read that they're teaching lessons to children in school on how to be happy. Apparently depression among children is on the rise.

    hi Jack: Your number 13 is excellent and one that I practice. When I go with my nephews to the playground I'm up on the swings, monkey bars, and everything else right along with them :-)

    Hi Bamboo: They have sessions several times a day and can call at any time to hear a recording. Sometimes you really need a laugh :-)

    Hi Stacey: I've read other people's submissions and it looks like it's going to be a fabulous e-book :-) There are schools like Harvard that have classes on how to be happy, so I think happiness should definitely be on our life curriculum.
  • Hi Mare - thanks for these tips. I really love the idea of the slow city and the city of joy.

    I must admit - since having PTSD, I have found it difficult to feel happy as often as I should. And meditating has really helped a lot.
  • I recently bought new winter clothes for my daughters. They were SO HAPPY to see them and to try them on.

    I can certainly see how people would get caught in the idea that happiness comes from consumption. It's part of human nature.

    However, this type of happiness is short lived. Soon they'll get used to the new stuff and move on. So it's very important to me to teach them NOT to keep looking for more new things to own as a way to feel happy.

    Vered - MomGrinds last blog post..Is There Such A Thing As Commenter’s Burnout? Or: Why I Sometimes Close Comments
  • I love Penolasa's mindset about his city. I love #7, very true! And of course you have to be healthy to be happy!

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  • My favorite is #7 - I suppose because I see it everywhere...and I see parents teaching children that more = happy.

    More does = happy if it is MORE of you! (or me in my case! :-)

    Thanks for an uplifting post!

    Harmonys last blog post..Stop Thinking
  • Yeah! Thank you for participating in the Life Balance Group Writing Project. The CHOICE to be happy is an important topic for discussion.

    Shamelle, over at Enhance Life, talks about “Choice Management” in her Life Balance Group Writing Project post. I’m thinking we should also add “Happiness Management” to our curriculum of life. :)

    Stacey / Create a Balances last blog post..Introducing My Authentic Self
  • That's a great quote by Deepak Chopra. I suppose there are varying levels of health.

    I laughed by just learning there is "laughter yoga hotline."

    I believe happiness is a choice, but it can take time and effort to attain it. In other words: it can take hard work. But it's worth it.

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  • Marelisa,

    Excellent post! I think that happiness is the ultimate goal of most people in this world. Including me. I would like to add a 13th way to the list:

    13. Live like a child!

    Remembering my joys as a kid and implementing them into my life now has brought me so much joy. I also try to bring back the creative, free, and curious mindset that I had when I was a kid. If you are having trouble remembering your childhood, look to other young people in your life for inspiration!

    Number one was my favorite on your list. It is so true...

    - Jack Rugile
    Simple Sapien

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  • Hi Mare - lovely post. I think these 12 points are great ways to get going on creating happiness in our lives. Believing it's possible and natural to be happy - your point 1 - is very important, and not always obvious to people, i think.

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